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You’re the 1 in 10

Published on 20 July 2017 by Charlie King | Filed in Uncategorized

You are the one in 10. Congratulations. You are the one in 10. UB40 came out with the song back in 1981 on the ‘Present Arms’ album. It was called one in ten and spoke to the incredibly high unemployment rate in England at the time. I’ve been considering unemployment, the job market and the future of work lately.

Most people, 9 out of 10 or more, are looking for somebody else to decide what their future is, what’s best for them, what they should do, or whether they’re good enough to have the life they want. Whether it’s the next boss who’s going to hire them and tell them what to do, the next change in the economy, the next diet program that’s going to finally get them to lose that 30 lb or the next relationship where maybe they’ll find someone who treats them like they deserve.

But that’s not for you, you’re the one in ten.

The one in ten is the person who isn’t interested in following along with the rest of the crowd. It’s lonely at times to be the one in 10. To be the one in 10, you’re the one who isn’t showing up at 8 or 9 in the morning, but you’re showing up at 6 in the morning. You aren’t leaving at 4 p.m., you may be leaving at 6 p.m., or possibly 2 p.m. You’re not following the schedule that most people follow in the world. You’re disrupting what is normal and expected period and that can be lonely sometimes

It can be lonely because you’re the one outside the norm, and there’s no one to validate your choice. Because you’re the 1 on 10. As a matter of fact, many people ask you why you do what you do, and the way you do it. They will then give you their opinions or look bewildered because your choice doesn’t match up with their expectations, or with what they are familiar with, or what they would choose.

It’s hard to find parallel when you’re the one in 10. Whether you’re a stay-at-home dad, and online entrepreneur, starting your own business, taking on a new health and fitness regimen, starting therapy, choosing a different lifestyle, leaving popular groups, or quitting your job at a very influential company.

People will tell you you’re crazy, or they “just don’t understand” somehow hoping that if you keep telling them in a different way they’ll finally “get it.” Don’t play that game. That’s their issue, not yours. Taking on other people’s concerns about your life is as productive as shouting at the moon hoping it’ll turn to cheese. It can also drive up a lot of doubt, second-guessing, and wonder whether you did the right thing.

I want to tell you absolutely, positively: you are doing the right thing. You are the one in 10. You are the one who’s choosing to live outside the box of what’s normal, what’s expected and what is conventional wisdom. The conventional wisdom is what everybody does, and it gets everyone more of the same results. Your path doesn’t look like conventional wisdom, it doesn’t look like anybody else’s life because it’s not supposed to your life looks like the back side of a quilt it may look.