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How Leveraging Both Intention And Action Are Critical To Success

Published on 25 April 2017 by Charlie King | Filed in Uncategorized

I attended an entrepreneur’s conference last year. It was a summit for people who are up to big things. It was a weekend full of laughter, new connections and community. There was inspiration and tactics, strategy, and sharing.

At the closing event, the keynote speaker called upon all of us to make commitments about what new actions and results we would commit to. She then stepped off the stage into the crowd with a microphone and started asking attendees directly. You guessed it, she walked over and put the microphone right in front of me and asked: “What about you, Charlie?”

And there I sat, frozen. See, I had been keeping my grand plans secret. If it’s secret, then no one will know if I DON’T produce the results. It would be easy to go home, excited with a “I know something you don’t know” cheshire-cat smile. And then, predictably, that smile would fade over the next week or two as I got mired back into my day-to-day as a mentor, coach, parent, volunteer and father.

The invitation to spend a weekend with amazing entrepreneurs who are up to big things is like hopping on a train that’s leaving the station on a journey. I got to be on the train, to see what it looked like away from the train station of my life. The train station of life is quiet, predictable and I know it really well. It’s a place of expectation. It’s where we wait. We quietly check our watch every few minutes, bags by our feet. We’re ready to go, but our train hasn’t arrived. There may be others on the platform, and what we all have in common is waiting. Waiting for the big break, to be inspired to get in shape, to connect with that person you admire, to start dating again, to REALLY get your budget in order or to just get out of your own way. If ONLY that train would come. But for now the waiting is all there is. There is anticipation and anxiousness. We look longingly down the track for the “right” message, the “right” thing to do or the “right” time.

When the train arrives, like being with inspiring new people, it can be breathtaking. It’s huge, so tall and massive it seemed to block out the sun. Sleek and powerful, it glides into the station effortlessly. we’re swept up as the train pulls out of the station, with the rush of movement and energy. We find our seat and are welcomed by new connections and stories from fellow passengers. The shift of the passenger cars and groan of couplings is foreign and exhilarating. Our bags we had at the station feel out of place, no longer seeming relevant for the ride.

However, soon after we pull out of the station, the train conductor comes through collecting tickets. In her blue cap and blazer, she paused in front of me expectantly, ticket-punch in hand. The conductor asks, “What about you, Charlie?”

And this is how it goes. Trains will lift us up come from time to time. Maybe it’s a weekend conference, a TED talk, a brainstorm had while vacationing, an amazing conversation with coach or mentor, a retreat or the inspired story from a book we’ve read. We get wrapped up in a story of success and insight, grand reinvention. We allow the ride to elevate us off the ground and for a moment we are there too. We get off the train, loudly declaring “What a GREAT ride!” full of the best intentions to apply new tools, training or inspiration to our world. But back at the station, everyone knows the platform, not the ride. The distant “It was great to meet you”, and “I can’t wait to see where you’ll be in a year’s time!” from the train windows gets drowned out by distance and the noise of the train station.

If there’s a ticket to buy, now’s the time.

This year I will incorporate video coaching and training for dads and entrepreneurs into my offerings and design and deliver workshops and retreats! I don’t know what it all looks like yet, but I just bought a ticket, just now, right here. And if this article has been a ride for you, where will you buy a ticket to?